What Is Tinnitus?

Do you suddenly get up in the middle of the night hearing strange noises? Yes it can definitely be frightening, more so when you cannot find the source. Now consider for a moment that these sounds are coming from within you. Most people would be stunned to know that. Many of us do not even know that our internal organs can make sounds.

Let us try to see whether you actually heard these noises or not, and if you did, where did they come from. Now before anything, let us get this straight - yes, you actually heard those noises. No, they are not a result of a creative mind that imagined things in slumber. But having said that, it is also true that there is indeed no source of the sounds you heard. So what is it? Confused?
This is a classic case of tinnitus.

What is tinnitus?

What you experienced last night (or did you just get up from sleep and switch on the computer) is a classic case of tinnitus. This is a medical condition wherein a person hears all kinds of strange clicking, ringing, buzzing, whistling or hissing sounds within the ear. What's so worrisome about this condition for a lot of people is that, there's actually no physical source of these sounds. What makes it even worse is that, no one else seems to hear them. Frankly, these people cannot be really blamed. Naturally, if you cannot see where the sound is coming from, and if you keep hearing it, you are bound to get worried.

In tinnitus, the sounds a person hears are actually perceptions. Since there's no actual source, they are often referred to as "phantom noises". Will it help you if you knew that about 8% of all people in the US suffer from tinnitus? Perhaps not, but at least now you know that you are not alone who hears these strange noises.

What Causes These Noises?

Of course you will want to know why you are hearing these noises. But even before you find this out, you should know that tinnitus is actually not a disease. It is actually a symptom of a problem that is rooted deep, somewhere within your body.

The problem could be a simple one like an infection in the ear, or even simpler, such as ear wax. Just clear the wax and get the infection treated, and the noises could go away. In some people, it could even be the result of a side-effect of a drug they took. Or it could be more complicated.

Some people will have tinnitus because their Cochlea is damaged. And in a few, it could be caused due to hearing loss. But of course, the most common cause of tinnitus is exposure to loud noises. The noise can be a sudden burst, or it could be a constant banging that hits the ear drum and travels inside. If they are abusing their ears by making it a point to stay close to such a racket, they will definitely have to pay a price. What's this price - it is tinnitus.

Of course, the noises of tinnitus are not heard only during the night. You could hear them during the day too. But it definitely seems to become worse in the night. In a few people, the noises come and go as they please. And there are others who hear them all the time.

Treating Tinnitus

It is almost impossible to live with tinnitus but you don't have to. If you are hearing the noises, whether all the time or intermittently, you must seek treatment immediately. But sadly, conventional treatments only treat the symptoms of tinnitus and may provide temporary relief at best. Sure enough, the sounds are going to come back.

The only way you could ever get rid of your tinnitus for good is by following the holistic approach to healing. By using a multidimensional treatment for tinnitus, we are tackling all tinnitus causative factors and eliminating these triggering elements from the root. This is the only path for permanent freedom from tinnitus.

This article is based on the book, "Tinnitus Miracle" by Thomas Coleman. Thomas is an author, researcher, nutritionist and health consultant who dedicated his life to creating the ultimate Tinnitus solution guaranteed to permanently reverse the root of ear ringing and naturally and dramatically improve the overall quality of your life,  without the use prescription medication and without any surgical procedures. Learn more by visiting his website HERE

 

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Ten Steps of Acceptance – When Forgiveness Is Not An Option

By Athena Staik, Ph.D.

In response to being wronged or mistreated by a loved one, whether emotional or physical abuse, or betrayal and infidelity, forgiveness is often considered the most critical ingredient for healing to eventually take place.

Indeed, depending on the context, forgiveness is a powerfully healing agent. In fact, a refusal to forgive or let go often prolongs suffering for the person that was wronged.

But what happens when the hurtful actions are repetitive and ongoing? Or, when the person who has acted wrongly is not willing (or able) to make meaningful amends? Or when the wronged person is not ready to forgive?

In these circumstances, argues Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring, author of How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To, genuine forgiveness can only take place when the onus of responsibility rests on the person who acted wrongly to earn forgiveness, and that, in certain situations, the best option for the person who was mistreated or betrayed is to have the freedom to not forgive, and to instead turn to the healing power of acceptance.

Drawing from her clinical work with couples dealing with infidelity, she notes there are at least ten interconnected steps for the betrayed person to take in self-directing their healing. These steps can also be universally applied to traumatic experiences and situations other than infidelity. Briefly summarized below, they are to:

1. Honor the full sweep of your emotions.

In this step you recognize the magnitude of the wrong that was done and seek to fully feel and express the emotions you feel in a way that allows you to more deeply understand the full impact of the trauma on you and your life. The secret to living an emotionally fulfilling life, or healing from hurtful experiences, in many ways, lies in how you respond, and the extent to which you have developed your ability to relate to yourself compassionately, seeking to understand your emotions, thoughts and other inner sensations, the painful ones in particular, so that you can embrace them as valuable feedback designed to inform your choices and responses.

2. Give up your need for revenge but continue to seek a just resolution.

A big part of healing is to let go of the natural instinct to hurt back or to take revenge when hurt. Remind yourself that, whereas entertaining retaliatory thoughts/plans may give you a false sense of power over another, such 'cheap thrills' can come at great cost to your peace of mind and health. Truth be told, to keep your mind in revenge mode is akin to leaving open wounds continuously exposed. Lasting peace and healing can only be found on a path that allows you to mindfully turn away from retaliation and turn toward instead to better understand yourself as a human being, to compassionately validate yourself for what you went through, what you learned or took from the situation that would possible empower, grow and strengthen you to create a preferred present and future.

3. Stop obsessing about the injury and reengage with life.

For healing to take place, it's essential to become aware of, to stop and to replace any repetitive toxic thinking patterns that may be causing you to obsessively think about the injury in ways that it continuously intrudes and interrupts your life. This causes ongoing distress, trauma and harm. Instead think about how you can fully reengage with your life and the persons and activities you love, and do so as fully as possible. Remember that toxic thinking patterns can trick your brain as they largely operate beneath the radar of your conscious mind. This is why a conscious awareness of these patterns is foundational to replacing them with life enriching thoughts instead.

4. Protect yourself from further abuse.

This step involves fully accepting the fullness of how wrong the other's actions against you were in order to learn to distance and to protect yourself from such actions in the future. This conscious acceptance allows you to chose to use the pain of your experience as an asset that motivates you to learn how to better protect yourself from harm, and to take precautions to ensure your safety in the present and future, setting up physical barriers if necessary. Your success depends on how much you want the abusive pattern to stop, the extent to which you believe in yourself to make whatever changes necessary, and what you're willing to do to realize change.

5. Frame the offender's behaviors in terms of their own problems and personal struggles.

This step asks you to re-think and reframe the actions taken against you so that the wrongful actions are mostly about the person who acted wrongly, their neediness to feel important by tearing others down, for example, and not about you. This means taking the time to see the story of how this person was also wounded by experiencing or witnessing the same or similar actions themselves, perhaps in their childhood. The more you know about a person, the more this allows you to never take their behavior personally, and thus – to increasingly replace any feelings of shame you may feel about what happened to you – with empathy and compassion, at minimum, for one another as human beings. The purpose here is to learn to make it a rule you follow in life to never let another person's actions dictate how you feel about yourself. You always have a choice, once you realize you do, that is, to take steps to free yourself from any mistaken notions that you deserved or caused the behaviors in any way.

6. Look honestly your own contribution to the injury.

In this step, you examine how your actions, approach and choices may have contributed to the injury you suffered. For most, this sounds more painful than it is because it is not about blaming yourself. It is rather about allowing yourself to authentically examine your own life and self and issues, perhaps to look at how your own fears, past experiences and beliefs, etc., prevented you from seeing that you deserved so much better than the mistreatment, and so on. The purpose here is to allow the pain of the experience to teach you that you were (and are!) much more than a victim, that you acted in misguided ways because, for example, your fears misled you to believe that disapproval or abandonment was far worse than abuse or infidelity. Another thing to learn from this step is that the person who most needs your forgiveness, especially at times when you're feeling vulnerable because you've made a series of mistakes, is yourself.

7. Challenge your false assumptions about what happened.

This step asks you to identify and challenge any limiting beliefs (false assumptions) regarding how you explain what happened in your mind, or when you explain what happened to others. To identify any toxic or limiting patterns, let yourself get into your anger or hurt as you write down what happened without editing or rationalizing your ideas. Then, looking at each thought or belief separately, ask the following questions:

• Is this true? What toxic thinking pattern does it fall under?
• What limiting belief underlies this thinking? It is an empowering or a limiting belief?

It's also helpful to ponder whether this is typical of your thinking or whether you need more information, and if so, where can you get it.

8. Look at the offender apart from his offense, weighing the good against the bad.

This step has you look more closely at the person who wronged you separate from their wrongful actions or even their benevolent ones. This permits you to see them and their behaviors more objectively, rather than shift from all-good to all-bad images of the person, which are difficult to reconcile. Acceptance doesn't require you to feel any particular way toward the person that hurt you; it just asks you to look at the person and his behaviors for their impact on you and your life. You may have wondered, for example, how can a person who is so generous to others be so hurtful, and thus concluded that perhaps you were the one that was crazy to feel so hurt. The person may have been generous and helpful to others, however, if these kind actions were not extended to you, they were selectively both generous and withholding.

9. Decide carefully what kind of a relationship you want with the person who wronged you.

In this step you decide in advance how you will overall relate to this person – on the basis of their actions toward you thus far. Their actions up to this point, and not their words, tell you who they are, and what they plan to do in the future. If the person refuses or is unable to make amends, it is up to you to decide what kind of a relationship makes sense to you under the circumstances. If reconciliation is not possible, therefore, is it possible to even interact with the person? If so, what steps can you take to remain authentic to yourself and still interact in a constructive, and relatively calm and confident way? In the case of a person that is no longer living or accessible, is forgiveness an option, now or in the future? Be gentle with yourself, and take the time to carefully ponder and reflect upon these questions, not hurrying for answers, rather allowing your inner sense of wisdom and knowing to speak to you. If you do not already, learn to trust yourself.

10. Forgive yourself for your own failings.

Last but not least, the closing step is to fully forgive yourself for any of your own mistakes or failings related to the trauma. Keep in mind this does not mean to look for how you hurt the one who wronged you. It rather refers to how you may have trusted them blindly, believed their lies, blamed your self, minimized their wrongs, stopped believing in your magnificence as a human being or dismissed your own suffering, and so on! Maya Angelou puts it this way, "When you know better, you do better." In many ways your mistakes or failings stem from ingrained old ways of getting your universally human need to matter met, which didn't allow you to see alternative ways of responding to those you love. Forgiving yourself will make it easier to let go of obsessive thinking patterns, such as blaming yourself for what happened, which would only keep you from living your life fully engaged with the people and activities you love.

Acceptance, a form of forgiveness?

"Acceptance is not forgiveness," Dr. Abrahms Spring points out. It is rather a critical choice that allows the person wronged to fully take the reins of their own healing – independent of the actions of the person that wronged them.

In a sense, acceptance is a form of forgiveness, however, as both are expressions of genuine love. Like forgiveness, at heart, acceptance is a letting go of instinctive response to hurt back or retaliate – and this letting go, when healthy, stems from a caring understanding that it is in the highest interest of the wronged person's life to do so. Like compassion, both acceptance and forgiveness invite parties to see and understand self and other empathically, as human beings, in the context of natural life processes that, albeit painful, are ultimately designed for their highest good. It takes an enormous amount of courage to not forgive prematurely, to allow the other to step in and make amends, as it does to repair a relationship.

Forgiveness and acceptance are essential ingredients in learning to love wholeheartedly.

Whether you choose to live in acceptance, or fear in relation to a past betrayal or mistreatment, your response accordingly shapes both the present and future. It's a choice between allowing automatic defense strategies to decide the course of your life, or consciously accessing the strength of both your courage and your compassion by choosing acceptance. Your choices are powerful emotional energies, fueled by your beliefs, wants, yearnings, thoughts and actions, etc., that powerfully determine the direction your life takes.

In all, acceptance is a transformative emotional stance in life that, in addition to being energy efficient, is a form of genuine love, infinitely more powerful than fear or shame, force or guilting one into forgiving too easily or prematurely.

 

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Relationship consultant, author, licensed marriage and family therapist, Dr. Athena Staik shows clients how to break free of anxiety, addictions, and other emotional blocks, to awaken radiantly healthy lives and relationships. Dr. Staik is currently in private practice in Northern VA, and writing her book, Safe Enough to Love™: Breaking Free of Addictive Love in Couple Relationships. To contact Dr. Staik for information, an appointment or workshop, visit www.drstaik.com, or visit on her Facebook fan page DrAthenaStaik

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How the Warrior Spirit Can Help You Change Your Reality

"The Warrior Spirit empowers people to achieve financial and personal goals with greater ease using higher mind states and shamanic wisdom. 

If the mind is filled to capacity with non-stop mind chatter, you make it difficult to create the results you want in your life.   Stress prevents you from having insights, creative ideas and confidence that can help you achieve your goals; it weakens your ability to solve issues that trigger anxiety and stress.

The Warrior Spirit helps you discover how powerful you really are and the immensity of what you can achieve," says Mary Rivas, creator of The Warrior Spirit.

The Warrior Spirit program empowers you to achieve financial and personal goals with greater ease, speed and wisdom using higher mind states and ancient wisdom. 

Ultimately, it helps you connect with a higher force within you to change your reality for the better.

Go Here Now To See For Your Self How the Warrior Spirit Can Help You Change Your Reality

 
What's Inside the Warrior Spirit Program?

• Audio book (in MP3 format) covers six parts of personal transformation.
• 98 page, six chapter e-book reinforces knowledge provided in audio book with illustrations & tables; it's the audio transcript.
• Illustration of how the mind works from a spiritual perspective.
• Illustration of how the manifesting process works.
• 5 practices to access higher mind powers (e.g., theta and delta).
• 4 ways to energize goals and help them manifest sooner.
• Tips for making wiser and more powerful decisions.
• 2 techniques for releasing old patterns and memories that keep you stuck.
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Screw Guilt!!

It does not matter if you stay at home, work out of the home, are single, married, a parent to many or a parent of one; all parent  have one thing in common--guilt. Parents often feel not able to give enough of themselves and linger over errors they've made. However, guilt feelings don't have to command your life. Follow these steps to work towards freeing yourself from parent s guilt.

Pinpoint precisely what you feel guilty about. Your guilt might be telling you that there's something you need to alter in your life.

Look intimately at your priorities. Make a list of what is all-important for the health and happiness of your loved ones. What is significant to your loved ones might not matter to other families and the other way around. Be strong with your priorities.

Construct more time for your loved ones. Even though you are a parent, you can't do everything, so if it is not on your precedence list then get in the habit of stating "No."

Live in the here and now. The errors you've made are over and through with. Forgive yourself for your errors, learn from them and leave them in the past tense.

Determine limits for your youngsters. As a parent you're responsible for the well-being of your youngsters, as well as helping them to formulate their personal character. Instructing them to respect the boundaries you have set is a crucial lesson, and is one that you ought to never feel guilty about implementing.

Adopt time for yourself. Even though it might seem inconceivable to find the time, if you're debilitated emotionally or physically then you have nothing to give your youngsters. Plus, you ought to take time for yourself exclusively for the fact that you're worth it.

Self-Healing Expressions ~ Holistic Healing

 

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The Power of Your Past Meets the Power of Now

By John P. Schuster / Source: Psychology Today

There is nothing wrong with the power of now, as far as it goes. The problem is that now by itself is just not enough. The current emphasis on presence is a good one, but it is only half the story.

We had a visceral negative reaction to the following sentence when we read first read it, "I rarely think of my past and have little use for it." Can you tell us what book starts with that sentence? It has been read by a lot of people. It is none other than the first sentence of the very popular, sold-about-a-squillion-copies, The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle.

We still have that same reaction. It is an extreme view that devalues the past and has dangerous implications. It suggests that if we get our act together and really get in touch with the present than we too will rarely think of our pasts and have little use for it. That is balderdash.

Of course, not frittering away our good thoughts in regrets about the past or worry about the unknown future has value. There is an old Cherokee saying that says, "Don't let the thoughts of the past take up too much of the present." That strikes us, Ed and John, the co-bloggers, as about right. Don't spend excessive time on the past because we live from now forward.

But it is natural to review our pasts for lessons, wisdom, anchoring our identities, and even healing old scars of course, something psychology and all wise people know a lot about. Our memories are a treasure trove of wisdom and learning when we know how to approach it. And yes we can get stuck there too.

The simple truth is that the power of your past is every bit as potent as the power of now. Neils Bohr, the great physicist, taught us all that when, while exploring the frontiers of quantum physics, he noted that the opposite of a great truth is not a falsehood, but another great truth.

So here is a tip: think about how you relate to your past. Here are a few prompts for you to help you think about it:

• Do you think about having a relationship with your past as an important part of your life? Sure you want a good relationship with your body, your feelings, with food, your friends, and your family. What about your past?
• Do you try to now-it-out at all times because you read the now literature and it makes sense to you?
• Are you nostalgic about your past, or an avoider of it? Or don't you much know?

As we start our blog series. We invite you to create a more useful, more creative relationship with your past. We will offer tips, stories, insights and inspiration on how you can do that. We invite you to harvest your memories in ways you most likely have done informally, but perhaps not fully appreciated. The power that is in your history is indeed worth harvesting.

 

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Key Solutions for Managing Stress Better

          Stress is not all bad.  In fact, a certain amount of stress can make life interesting and engaging.  We cannot escape every deadline or every commitment, so, rather than trying to eliminate stress entirely, we need to attempt to control stress as best we can.  Interestingly enough, if we don't have enough stress, we may end up feeling tired and hopeless.

            It would be wonderful if we could come up with a mathematical formula for stress—the amount of stress an individual could conceivably accept without going into overdrive.  However, optimal stress levels vary from person to person and from situation to situation.   In fact, a situation that might make your skin crawl might be invigorating for another person.  Likewise, a person who thrives on constant change would be stressed out in a job that is mundane, while an individual that hates change would be stressed out in a position that is constantly in a state of flux.  

       Experts believe that many illnesses are directly tied to stress.  If you find yourself becoming constantly ill, or you feel nervous much of the time, you need to develop strategies for coping.  It should be noted, however, that stress management is a practiced art—you can't expect to master it in a single day.   However, if you keep at it, chances are you will learn ways to deal effectively with stress.

         One of the first things you should do is to learn what your primary stressors are.  Is it cooking dinner?  Preparing for a presentation?  Driving to work?  While you cannot necessarily eliminate these chores, you can make them more manageable.  For instance, if cooking dinner stresses you out, consider ordering takeout once a week in order to take a break from your normal routine.  If preparing presentations is a problem, learn to divide up the project so that you're only focusing on a section at a time.  If your morning commute leaves you frazzled, try leaving for work fifteen minutes earlier.  The idea here is to recognize your stressors and come up with ideas for limiting their impact.

          You should then try if at all possible to lessen your emotional reactions to stressors.  You may notice that stressors cause you to think negatively, focusing on the worst aspects of a situation.  Instead, consider a stressor an opportunity for improving your life.  Try to determine whether you are overreacting to certain situations.  It is entirely possible that every stressor you encounter is not urgent—that you can take your time to assess the situation and therefore reduce your stress level.  Also, think of yourself as being in control of your emotions.  While you may not be able to do anything about a certain situation, you can control your reactions to it.

       Pay close attention to your physical reactions to stress.  For instance, adopt deep breathing techniques in order to decrease your heart rate.  If your physical reactions to stress are severe, you should consult your doctor to see if you should be on medication.  However, a simple reaction to stress is to simply take a break from the action.  This way, you can get some valuable "alone time" to think through a situation and see if you can find the light at the end of the tunnel.

       Another effective way to fight stress is to strengthen your body.  You should engage in aerobic activity at least three times a week.  You should also make sure you're eating nutritious food.  Try to avoid stimulants such as sugar and caffeine, and make sure that you get enough sleep each night.   These simple strategies can help you to cope when situations seem overwhelming.

        You have to recognize that stress is an inevitable part of life.  You cannot go through life coasting from one situation to the next and not expect to encounter some stress.  However, with effective management techniques, you can turn stressful situations into opportunities for growth.  The more strategies you invoke to deal with stressors, the happier and healthier you will be.  But remember to start slowly and build up your emotional reserves.  A gradual approach works best when it comes to stress management—otherwise, you could actually become stressed out by the pressure of it all.

 

 

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