You Must Change the 148,000 No's In Your Subconscious to Yes's

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You Must Change the 148,000 No's In Your Subconscious to Yes's


What does it take to succeed? How can you move forward - no, take
a quantum leap forward - in your achievements, in realizing your
dreams?

According to some research, a person who grows up in an average,
reasonably positive home is told "no" or told what he or she
cannot do over 148,000 times before they hit their 18th birthday!
The number of "yes'" or encouragement on what they can do is far
smaller than the "no's", "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" (which are
all "no's").

So what?

Well, think about it. The results you achieve in your life are a
result of the actions you take. So what determines the actions
you will take?

Let us first discuss the power of practice and repetition. We all
know that repetition creates habit. Our brains and physiology
learns through repetition. We are pattern-making and pattern-
following creatures. Practice makes perfect. Whether you like it
or not, the more you repeat something, the more it becomes part
of you.

Repetition is programming. Repetition is programming. And 148,000
"no's" is a lot of programming!

Repetition creates programming, which in turn creates beliefs,
which in turn determine your thoughts and emotions, which in turn
determine your actions, which in turn determine your results.

Have you noticed how you tend to think the same kind of thoughts
over and over again? Studies show that we have about 50,000
thoughts per day, and a whooping 90% of them are repetitive! Like
an old, tired record. And remember, repetition creates patterns,
habits. You are literally hypnotizing yourself with your repeated
thoughts.

Other research shows that 77% of everything that most people
think about is negative, self-damaging, hindering, and
counterproductive. Now, remember, your results come from your
actions, and your actions come from your thoughts, and your
thoughts come from your beliefs, and beliefs come from your
programming (what you repeatedly tell yourself or get told).

It goes even further than that. Your subconscious mind controls
almost everything about you. For example, it controls your
autonomic nervous system. What is that? Here is what the
Microsoft Encarta encyclopedia says: "Autonomic Nervous System,
in vertebrate anatomy, one of the two main divisions of the
nervous system, supplying impulses to the body's heart muscles,
smooth muscles, and glands. The autonomic system controls the
action of the glands; the functions of the respiratory,
circulatory, digestive, and urogenital systems; and the
involuntary muscles in these systems and in the skin. Controlled
by nerve centers in the lower part of the brain, the system also
has a reciprocal effect on the internal secretions, being
controlled to some degree by the hormones and exercising some
control, in turn, on hormone production." Which all means that
your hormones, energy levels, actions and so forth are controlled
by the subconscious mind. If you have told yourself that you are
clumsy, the subconscious will work with your hormones, motor
skills, and so on and make you act, move and talk stupid. If you
have told yourself that you don't fit in social situations, you
will find yourself standing in the corner not fitting. Whatever
you say, boss. Your subconscious is like a computer. Whatever you
program into it, it makes happen. No questions asked. You are the
boss, and whatever you say, happens.

Your imagination, your thoughts, what you perceive, what you
don't perceive, what you see and what you miss, how you act, what
you feel... these are all determined by one thing: your
programming, what you repetitively tell yourself (and what you
repetitively got told or observed during your youthful formation
years).

So how do you take the quantum leap, how do you step out of the
box of your own thoughts and see beyond it. How do you program
yourself for success? Well, the same way you create all
programming: practice. Repetition. You have to not only find what
works positively for you, but you have to practice that new
positive way over and over until it becomes part of you. Positive
thinking and self-help advice will not work unless you make it
permanent for you by practicing it over and over. Your entire
physiology has to be rewired; your neural pathways (which create
pattern and memory) have to be redrawn. All this happens by
practice. Repetition. Repetition. Repetition. Practice. Then one
day, like with everything else you ever learnt through practice,
you just find yourself automatically doing it! It becomes you!

Ok, now how fast and to what extent can you grow your
consciousness within one lifetime? The quick and dirty answer is
that there is an average rate of growth, but there are no limits.
According to Dr. David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D., in his
bestselling book Power vs. Force, people on average tend to
increase their consciousness by 5 points in a lifetime (on a
scale of 0 to 1000). So if you were born at a consciousness level
of 300, you tend to get to 305 by the time you die. But that is
an average that includes billions of people. There is nothing to
limit anyone except their own choices. Many are on record for
having achieved 100% or even 2000% increases or more, where they
are literally renewed and are different in just about everyway. A
transformation happens.

So if you wish to leap forward, know that nothing stops you. But
also know that you have to leap forward in your mind first. You
have to re-write the negative programming that is keeping you
where you are. And re=programming is done best through acting in
the new way and practicing that over and over until it becomes
part of you. The more you open up, let go, allow, trust and not
resist or defend your old ways, the faster you will move forward.
Practice. Whatever you do, practice until it becomes you. And it
will happen automatically, you will find yourself anew.





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Myths and Facts about PTSD By Harold Cohen, Ph.D.

Myth: PTSD is only seen in people with “weak characters” who are unable to cope with difficult situations in the same way that most of us do.

Fact: PTSD is a human response to markedly abnormal situations, and it involves specific chemical changes in the brain that occur in response to a person experiencing a traumatic event. Many of the symptoms of PTSD seem to be a direct result of such brain changes.

Myth: All of us have been through frightening experiences and have at least one symptom of PTSD as a result of that experience.

Fact: Although memories of frightening experiences may be similar to symptoms of PTSD (e.g., vivid memories), most persons do not have the severity of symptoms or impairment associated with PTSD. The specific brain-based responses seen in PTSD differ from those seen in normal anxiety. Similarly, the experiences of normal anxiety and of PTSD are markedly different.

Myth: Stress reactions to trauma exist, but these should not be considered as a serious medical problem.

Fact: PTSD is a medical disorder that can sometimes cause serious disability. Persons with PTSD often also have co-occurring mood, anxiety, and substance-related disorders. In addition, these people may have significant difficulty at their job, in their personal relationships, or other social interactions.

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Most people live their lives in a Wide Asleep state. Are you one of them? They react instead of create. If we do not control our thoughts, there are plenty of people and things out there who will. Thoughts and ideas are things in our subconscious and conscious mind that create who we are. Wide Asleep, Slumber No More by Timothy Kendrick provides ways to wake up your life by learning how to block the images, sounds, sublime messages that at many times assist in or contaminate our thinking. Our brain processes on the average only 15 bits of information per second. However, our subconscious mind processes 15 to 40 million bits of information in that same exact second! One of the many benefits Wide Asleep offers is better choices to stop the unconscious sabotage we receive and process. Learn to live wide-awake by focusing on the awareness of making the right choices.

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Study Challenges Link Between Panic Attacks, PTSD

Study Challenges Link Between Panic Attacks, PTSD

Findings suggest many factors contribute to stress disorder, not just fear during trauma

FRIDAY, April 10 (HealthDay News) -- People who suffer a panic attack during or immediately after a traumatic event aren't at increased risk of developing post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), a new study says.

Factors such as a prior history of depression, a person's emotional support network and self-esteem are stronger indicators of a person's likelihood of developing PTSD, said U.S. researchers.

Their findings challenge the belief that having a panic attack during or after an upsetting event triggers or predicts PTSD in the long term. Symptoms of panic attacks include shortness of breath, sweating, trembling or shaking, heart pounding, chills or hot flashes, and a sense that there is no reality.

The study authors examined panic attacks during a traumatic experience among people exposed to the 9/11 World Trade Center attacks. Among their key findings:

* The highest rate of panic attacks occurred in those aged 30 to 44.
* People with the highest levels of education were least likely to suffer a panic attack.
* Hispanics were more likely to have panic attacks than people in other ethnic groups.
* 30 percent of people who suffered panic attacks after 9/11 had depression prior to the event.

Overall, the findings suggest that many factors contribute to PTSD, not just panic attacks during a traumatic event.

"Clinicians should look at other signs of mental-health stress such as not sleeping, recently experiencing stressful life events and withdrawing from social interactions," study co-author Joseph Boscarino, a senior investigator at the Geisinger Health System in Danville, Pa., said in a Geisinger news release.

The study was published in the April issue of the journal Psychiatry Research.

About 10 percent of Americans suffer panic attacks each year, but that rate is much higher among people involved in traumatic events, according to federal government data.

"We encourage trauma victims to seek counseling immediately after disasters and other traumatic events. We're learning that the long-term mental-health consequences of trauma are far-reaching and more complex than originally thought," Boscarino said.

More information

The U.S. National Institute of Mental Health has more about PTSD.

How To Rebuild Your Life After A Divorce

Suddenly you're single after years of marriage. This always
results in a serious blow to the old ego of at least one of the
persons involved. It's a traumatic experience - a time that's
very difficult to live through - and a feeling that isn't easy
to recover from - yet life does and must go on.

When divorce occurs, and you feel as though your life has been
shattered, the first thing you should do is start leading the
life of a single person immediately! You should force yourself
to make a date at least once a week. Start noticing other
people, join in the activities of the singles crowd, and get
back into the swing of things.

Indeed, the sooner you start dating, even if it's only dinner
with someone you work with, sooner the pain will subside.
Basically, you should just out and not concern yourself with the
"yes or no" possibilities of a sexual encounter.

It's most important however that you don't expect too much of
yourself too soon. Generally it takes about two years for the
victim of a divorce to get over the hurt and for most of the
scars to heal. Anyone thinking or believing they're ready for
any kind of permanent relationship in less time, is probably
living in a world of make believe and heading for a repeat of
past mistakes.

Numerous "brief" sexual encounters are the usual pattern of
recently divorced persons. The are usually quite useful in
rebuilding one's self-esteem. By the same token, extended
periods of celibacy usually follow a couple of weeks or a month
of feverish sexual activity. These times are also normal and
useful in the overall healing process.

Often-times older persons suddenly find that achievement makes
them attractive to the opposite sex. Prestige and age are
attractive, but in divorced persons, they are very often an
aphrodisiac. The bottom line is simply that younger people often
have "affairs" with those older than themselves, but usually,
they want "permanent partners" closer to their own age. In
otherwords, prestige and age will get you sex, but it will very
seldom bring you love.

As a newly divorced person, you'll probably experience several
"transitional relationships." These are also a necessary part of
your healing process, and though you may think you care a great
deal about them at the time, it's best that you remember these
are only temporary encounters with transitional partners. You
needn't feel guilty about breaking off one of these
relationships because you may very well be someone's
transitional partner later on in your life.

Your best opportunities for meeting new friends and possible
marriage partners are within the normal course of business and
social events. It's also generally within your best interests to
join in the activities of a local Singles Organization such as
Parents Without Partners or Singles International. Then too, you
should ask your friends and co-workers to introduce you to
people they know that you might enjoy.

With your dates, you should avoid talking about your ex-spouse.
If you feel you have to talk about your divorce, pick a special
friend or attend some of the organized "rap sessions" for
divorced persons in your area.

You should also avoid introducing your dates or new friends too
quickly to your children. Such introductions too quickly can
have innumerable adverse effects on everyone concerned.
You'l1 find that sexual freedom and less formal lifestyles have
definitely changed the etiquette of dating over the last few
decades. As an example, a man should not be surprised if after
asking a woman out a few times, she asks him out. And a woman
should not be hesitant to ask a man out for a backyard barbeque
or even to a movie she'd like to see. Men should also realize
that women make up their minds about sex more quickly these days
than in years past. A woman of today generally isn't thought of
as being a loose woman if she decides to sleep with a man on the
first date.

Much of the romance and magic of the traditional courtship game
still works. Soft music, candlelight, and good food are still
very much in vogue. Even the grand gesture of an evening on the
town in style or a spur of the moment trip to the beach or to a
hideaway in the mountains.

Regardless of the pain, the bitterness, or exasperation, it's
essential that you remember your children and continue to be a
good parent. In fact, you should do all within your means to be
a better parent than you may have been before the separation.
This is because regardless of how they seem to be taking it, or
what they do or don't show, divorce is more often than not
harder on the children than on the parents. They usually become
much more curious about your day-to-day routine, who you're
seeing and your happiness.

Just remember, time and people will cure all your ills, and you
will be happy again!

How To Get Everything You Want Out Of Life

FIRST, be prepared to know yourself better. A serious appraisal
of your life is essential to getting what you want. If you need
to get to Pittsburgh by Friday, you've got to know where you're
starting from. A serious self-appraisal may take weeks to
complete. How well educated are you in the things you would like
to know? How much effort do you put into each aspect of your
life?

What are your best and worst points? How do you choose your
friends, your home, your job and your hobbies? How do treat your
friends, family and strangers? How deep is your personal
spirituality? You have hundreds and hundreds of special traits,
but how well developed is each of them? Which of your traits are
the worst? What have you accomplished over the past twenty, ten,
five, two and in one year? In the past month? The past week?
Today? Who have you hurt? Who deserves better than you've given
them? And most important, how close are you now to where you
hoped you'd be when you looked ahead a year ago, five years ago,
or even as a child?

Be prepared to cry a little as you make this appraisal of your
life. Humans are far from perfect, and even the minor goals we
set for ourselves are not achieved, and it can hurt to see
exactly where you are. Draw upon every bit of serenity you have
when making this appraisal, and always keep in mind you are on a
fact-finding, not a fault-finding mission. Whether your
strengths match evenly with your weaknesses on paper is not
important. What you want is a written record of who and what you
are in as great a depth as possible, a blueprint of your house
which you can use as a base for improvement.
Great people in every field start with such a deep analysis and
revise it yearly to chart their progress, and the time and
emotion spent in such an appraisal will be chicken feed compared
to the value you will receive from it.

SECOND, make a special report based on your self-appraisal and
include the report everything you ever did which you didn't
think you could do. THIS ABSOLUTELY VITAL! It will provide you
with enormous inspiration when faced with a problem you don't
think you can overcome. These are not only real-life success
stories, they are your success stories, positive proof that
there's more in you than you might think. These experiences are
the batteries you'll use to power the shovels which will move
mountains in the future. Remember, even an almost-dead battery
will start a car. Have this report in writing and keep it with
your personal analysis, and make a copy in case you lose it.
This will be a vital document in times to come.

THIRD, decide where you want to go. Most people fail because
they don't set goals worthy of themselves. If they do, they do
not live each day in pursuit these goals. This, and every other
step outlined here, is absolutely vital to a truly successful
life.

When you set your goals, make them better than you've done
before, but make them achievable. In other words, if it is at
all possible that you or someone like you could achieve the
goal, it is worthy. But don't set them too low either, or you'll
be breezing through life, bored and unchallenged. Set goals for
each day, for the next week, month, year, two years, five years,
twenty years, fifty years (regardless of your age).

Be definite about what you want. Write your goals down and use
as much detail as possible. Make them firm... for the moment.
You will find as you achieve certain things that some goals will
have to change, and that's fine. Just don't go around changing
your mind every time the wind changes or you won't know which
way is up.

Set as many goals as you like, and include among them - what
you'd like to be doing, where you'd like to go, what you want
for your family, what kind of person you'd like to be, how much
you'd like to be earning, your net worth, your health,
personality, education and spiritual growth. Keep your daily
goals confined to activities which will lead to accomplishment
of your long-term goals. Don't be afraid to set goals. Mistakes
can be corrected; doing nothing cannot be corrected.

The next step takes no real effort, and strangely enough, it is
the most difficult step for the average person to take.

FOURTH: COMMIT! Make the decision to achieve those goals, to
strive for the things you want which will make your life and
yourself all that much better. Make that commitment from the
heart, not at the lips! It will take time to really feel that
commitment, and regularly reviewing the goals you've written
down will make it possible to truly feel that commitment. You'll
go through agonies at first and wonder if any of this is really
worth it, and that's the point most people give up.

Remember this and you'll look forward to that agony. Every
change comes with pain. It hurts to be born, to fall in love, to
pass an exam, run a marathon. Once you start feeling that pain,
know it for what it is - your old self screaming for life. Let
your old self win and you lose!

Once you pass through that barrier of pain between what you are
and what you want, you will know what it is worth every bit of
discomfort. You've been through it before, and you'll need the
memory of past incidents where you've made it to help you get
through it.

You'll need the support of others, too. So you'll have to
consider the people with whom, you spend most of your time. If
they are not as interested in improving themselves as you are,
it's time to expand your circle of friends to include those
people, and make them the best you could want. Make your friends
inspirations to you in your quest for a better life.

The final step is so simple and so tough it literally separates
the men from the boys who will never grow up. It means
sacrificing immediate pleasure for real satisfaction down the
road, so if you're not ready to make the trade, go back two
paces.

FIFTH: Spend every moment of your life in the most effective,
efficient way possible in the pursuit of your goals. You'll
never be able to do this as well as you will want to, but that's
fine. Nobody spends all their time as effectively as humanly
possible. The degree to which you can tune your desire to the
things you want and discipline yourself to do the things that
lead to getting them - will determine how successful you will be.
Regardless of how weak you are now, you can and will increase
the value your time and activities and garner more happiness
than you might think fair only if you'll keep your failures in
perspective. Think of them as lessons and gain something from
them. Use your successes as a well of strength on which you can
draw when you're ready to quit.

These simple steps are the true secret to getting what you want
out of life. It has been proven time and time again by great men
down trough history, and centuries from now. The words may
change, but the ideas will be the same.

For centuries men have tried to find ways of making this simple
set of guidelines more complicated and more difficult to
understand and follow. Most of them succeeded admirably. Most
got what they wanted by doing so. What they really wanted was
less than they set out to achieve. Getting what you truly want
is so difficult precisely because it is so simple. Humans are
very complex beings and thrive on making things even more
complicated.

It might help to remember that the foundation of every religion,
belief, system and philosophy that has worked its way to a
culture and taken root is personal happiness. In every case,
happiness is achieved by reducing things to their simple
possible elements.

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